85% of what you communicate is not with words. It’s through the tone of your voice, the way you sit and a wealth of other messages that your body involuntarily sends.
Stand up straight… that’s easy. Smile… also, hopefully not too difficult. But one of the most awkward problems people have with confident body language is what to do with their hands and arms?!?
- Clasping your hands is a signal that you are closed off.
- Putting your palms together with one thumb over the other says that you need reassurance.
- You should never cross your arms over your chest, since this gives the impression that you are not in agreement, closed off, defensive or insecure.
- Open hands and showing palms show that nothing is being concealed.
To come across confident, have your hands open and relaxed on the table or at your side. When your body is open, you project trustworthiness and will actually feel more confident. It is ok to use some hand gestures while speaking, as long as they’re in sync with what you’re saying, and not too wild.